Comments for Process Man http://www.gotprocess.com Sat, 21 Jan 2012 15:45:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3 Comment on Why Are Workaholics Late? by Patricia Antersijn http://www.gotprocess.com/phasing/why-are-workaholics-late/#comment-190 Patricia Antersijn Sat, 21 Jan 2012 15:45:24 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=539#comment-190 I Love your stories. Keep going on! I Love your stories. Keep going on!

]]> Comment on Connecting the Dots…with a Dreamer by Joe & Judy Pauley http://www.gotprocess.com/school-behavior-problems/connecting-the-dots-with-a-dreamer/#comment-181 Joe & Judy Pauley Tue, 10 Jan 2012 16:07:26 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=534#comment-181 Hi everybody, We have a lot of stories about Dreamers who got the impression from their teachers and their classmates that they were weird.  One of the Dreamers we interviewed for the Dreamer chapter in “Here’s How To Reach Me” was labeled mentally retarded because he could not do more than two things at a time.  He was pulled out of the 2nd grade in his neighborhood school and put into a segregated school for kids who were labeled mentally retarded.  We found out about it when we interviewed him for the book.  At the time he was about to go into the 6th grade.  We explained what Dreamers are like to his father and told him his son was not retarded.  The father pulled him out of the segregated center and put him in the 6th grade in his home middle school.  Unfortunately he was so far behind that he needed tutoring and special help to catch up.  He caught up by the time he was in the 9th grade, but it was not easy for him.  Joe and Judy Hi everybody, We have a lot of stories about Dreamers who got the impression from their teachers and their classmates that they were weird.  One of the Dreamers we interviewed for the Dreamer chapter in “Here’s How To Reach Me” was labeled mentally retarded because he could not do more than two things at a time.  He was pulled out of the 2nd grade in his neighborhood school and put into a segregated school for kids who were labeled mentally retarded.  We found out about it when we interviewed him for the book.  At the time he was about to go into the 6th grade.  We explained what Dreamers are like to his father and told him his son was not retarded.  The father pulled him out of the segregated center and put him in the 6th grade in his home middle school.  Unfortunately he was so far behind that he needed tutoring and special help to catch up.  He caught up by the time he was in the 9th grade, but it was not easy for him. 

Joe and Judy

]]> Comment on Connecting the Dots…with a Dreamer by Margit http://www.gotprocess.com/school-behavior-problems/connecting-the-dots-with-a-dreamer/#comment-176 Margit Sat, 07 Jan 2012 15:45:10 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=534#comment-176 Dear All, yes, thanks for sharing this story with us. I agree, those stories make PCM alive. Such a shame that quite a lot of the Dreamer kids struggle in school and parents as well as teachers assume its a lack of intelligence. We do have friends with a Dreamer child which has been recommended to a school for kids with special needs. As my husband Mark and I introduced the concepts of PCM (passed on your education book Judy and Joe) and recommended to put this child in a regular school but to allow him alone time, the parents were very relieved. In fact this child is a very bright one, too. Best regards, Margit Dear All,
yes, thanks for sharing this story with us. I agree, those stories make PCM alive. Such a shame that quite a lot of the Dreamer kids struggle in school and parents as well as teachers assume its a lack of intelligence. We do have friends with a Dreamer child which has been recommended to a school for kids with special needs. As my husband Mark and I introduced the concepts of PCM (passed on your education book Judy and Joe) and recommended to put this child in a regular school but to allow him alone time, the parents were very relieved. In fact this child is a very bright one, too.
Best regards, Margit

]]> Comment on Connecting the Dots…with a Dreamer by Patricia Antersijn http://www.gotprocess.com/school-behavior-problems/connecting-the-dots-with-a-dreamer/#comment-175 Patricia Antersijn Sat, 07 Jan 2012 09:05:37 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=534#comment-175 Jeff and Judith thank you very much for these wonderfull and very practical examples. I love these stories which makes PCM so alive. Thanks again and let's make it a wonderfull PCM 2012 with lots of people to find out that they are okay! All the best for every one. Patricia Antersijn (The Netherlands). Jeff and Judith thank you very much for these wonderfull and very practical examples. I love these stories which makes PCM so alive. Thanks again and let’s make it a wonderfull PCM 2012 with lots of people to find out that they are okay! All the best for every one. Patricia Antersijn (The Netherlands).

]]> Comment on Connecting the Dots…with a Dreamer by Judith Ann Pauley http://www.gotprocess.com/school-behavior-problems/connecting-the-dots-with-a-dreamer/#comment-174 Judith Ann Pauley Fri, 06 Jan 2012 15:07:31 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=534#comment-174 Thanks, Jeff. What a wonderful story. As PCM trainers we have heard this so many times. In one of our graduate level university courses, we had two dreamers, who were working on their master in education degree, attending, who thought they were weird because they'd never met another dreamer and no one spoke their language. They also were told they were wierd by their teachers, parents and the other students. What insights they provided to the rest of the class! In fact they were very bright. They always sat in the front row at the far ends so they didn't have to see another person and that's how they got their solitude need met. Process Communication validated for them for the first time that they were OK. Thanks, Jeff. What a wonderful story. As PCM trainers we have heard this so many times. In one of our graduate level university courses, we had two dreamers, who were working on their master in education degree, attending, who thought they were weird because they’d never met another dreamer and no one spoke their language. They also were told they were wierd by their teachers, parents and the other students. What insights they provided to the rest of the class! In fact they were very bright. They always sat in the front row at the far ends so they didn’t have to see another person and that’s how they got their solitude need met. Process Communication validated for them for the first time that they were OK.

]]> Comment on Conditional vs. Positional – It’s a Matter of Degree by 2011 December E-News | Next Element http://www.gotprocess.com/phasing/conditional-vs-positional-its-a-matter-of-degree/#comment-157 2011 December E-News | Next Element Tue, 20 Dec 2011 23:18:00 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=526#comment-157 [...] Conditional vs. Positional – It’s a Matter of Degree! For more on the difference between first and second degree distress, check out this blog post… [...] [...] Conditional vs. Positional – It’s a Matter of Degree! For more on the difference between first and second degree distress, check out this blog post… [...]

]]> Comment on What is the difference between the Imagination for the Dreamer and Creativity for the Rebel? by Squash http://www.gotprocess.com/pcm-terms-and-concepts/what-is-the-difference-between-the-imagination-for-the-dreamer-and-creativity-for-the-rebel/#comment-129 Squash Wed, 26 Oct 2011 05:32:07 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=401#comment-129 So true! I've been wondering all along why I'm so creative but feel like I have no imaginative edge! So true! I’ve been wondering all along why I’m so creative but feel like I have no imaginative edge!

]]> Comment on Why Would a Reactor Procrastinate? by Adam Barlow-Thompson http://www.gotprocess.com/pcm-terms-and-concepts/why-would-a-reactor-procrastinate/#comment-120 Adam Barlow-Thompson Thu, 11 Aug 2011 16:05:58 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=490#comment-120 True. and True. As a reactor I resemble that distress sequence. Decisions that can't be unmade can cause me to waste away an entire afternoon. Example: Making a flyer. What I get stumped on is questions like...Does it look good enough that my coworkers won't be upset? Will people think it is cool enough to come to the event? PCM helps me realize that my procrastination is less about these questions and more about getting my need for recognition of self met. If I know I will be valued regardless of my flyer's pizzazz I will be happier, more efficient, and able to access other floors of my condo. True. and True. As a reactor I resemble that distress sequence. Decisions that can’t be unmade can cause me to waste away an entire afternoon. Example: Making a flyer. What I get stumped on is questions like…Does it look good enough that my coworkers won’t be upset? Will people think it is cool enough to come to the event? PCM helps me realize that my procrastination is less about these questions and more about getting my need for recognition of self met. If I know I will be valued regardless of my flyer’s pizzazz I will be happier, more efficient, and able to access other floors of my condo.

]]> Comment on How do you respond when a Rebel says, “I don’t care”? by dan http://www.gotprocess.com/conflict-resolution/how-do-you-respond-when-a-rebel-says-i-dont-care/#comment-99 dan Fri, 08 Jul 2011 13:11:42 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=478#comment-99 Loved the article, Nate. When my daughter says "I don't care," she responds best if I reply in a different voice such as a thick, southern drawl. Something like, "Little Lady, I hear you sayin' you don't care. That just smells like chicken feed and hogwash with a little bit of horse manure mixed in! Now go git yer boots on!" She likes the acting and the playful part. Loved the article, Nate. When my daughter says “I don’t care,” she responds best if I reply in a different voice such as a thick, southern drawl. Something like, “Little Lady, I hear you sayin’ you don’t care. That just smells like chicken feed and hogwash with a little bit of horse manure mixed in! Now go git yer boots on!” She likes the acting and the playful part.

]]> Comment on Driving Performance for Different Personality Types by Ane-Mary Ormenisan http://www.gotprocess.com/employee-engagement/driving-performance-for-different-personality-types/#comment-94 Ane-Mary Ormenisan Sun, 12 Jun 2011 09:19:52 +0000 http://www.gotprocess.com/?p=467#comment-94 This article is a good source of inspiration for me, because I intent to use some reasoned conclusions in the next PCM demo that I am preparing! Thank you very much! This article is a good source of inspiration for me, because I intent to use some reasoned conclusions in the next PCM demo that I am preparing! Thank you very much!

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